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Author Archives: lisa
What We Need to Talk About When We Talk About Sex and Feminism
My mother married my father because, she told me in a rare moment of candor, she wanted to have sex with him. She was 25 and tired of pre-sex fumbling and stolen kisses. My father was, of course, far more … Continue reading
Fifty Shades of Grey: My Version
I have fantasies. Oh, do I have fantasies. They wake me up in the middle of the night; they keep me from work; they interfere with my relationships. My longing is unending. It consumes me. Sometimes I stand, immobilized by … Continue reading
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Boomeranging Into An Empty Nest
I was extremely heartened to read in the New York Times that having a good and open relationship with your kids, one in which you speak frequently and they solicit your advice, is a positive thing. Not that I ever … Continue reading
Pay Close Attention to Those Behind the Curtain
In the “this isn’t really news” department we have had, this week, Katie Rophe’s ridiculous article about how female sexual fantasies of bondage spell the end of feminism (a Newsweek cover story no less), a fake war between mothers who … Continue reading
Posted in politics, Women and Feminism
Tagged distraction, feminism, katie Rophe, the news as noise, women
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Motherhood: The Fear Factor
After six hours of hard labor, I was told my son’s heartbeat was slowing. “Get him out,” I screamed. And they did, slitting me from top to bottom in an emergency C-section. I wasn’t at the hospital or with the … Continue reading
Posted in Personal Essays, Women and Feminism
Tagged fear factor, feminism, motherhood, parenting older children
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Where is My Flying Car?
When I was in my twenties and could not even imagine middle age, I realized I would be 44 in the year 2000. That seemed impossibly old. But as I neared that age and the century neared its end, I … Continue reading
Posted in Personal Essays, politics
Tagged history, political discourse, racism, The Future
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The South Can Rise Again, But Not Like You Think
A video depicting residents of Mississippi and Alabama as toothless, ignorant bigots is making its way around the country and, perhaps, the world. That video and the fact that several southern states have gone for Santorum and Gingrich in the … Continue reading
Posted in Personal Essays, politics
Tagged lies, politics of belief, prejudice, southern racism, the south
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Being Fucked by Republicans. Fun? Not So Much
(This post originally appeared on doesthismakesense.com) I’m writing this when I should be vacuuming. In pearls and heels and nothing else; well, maybe an apron, just an apron covering my front so that my ass hangs out, tantalizingly. In the … Continue reading
WHY Must We Constantly Re-Invent Ourselves?
I am feeling very inadequate. While I have recently, at the age of 55, moved to a new city and a house, completed a new novel, and said good-bye to my last child as she heads off the college; while … Continue reading
Posted in Personal Essays, Women and Feminism
Tagged body issues, feminism, life, re-invention, women, women's magazines
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